Everything I Learned About Leadership I Learned From My Mother

12 May

By Linda Adams
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My Mum is quite petite, gentle, and very Scottish. No drill sergeant or business card that read Household CEO, she was way more than just a mother. She was my first leader. I realize from my earliest days until today, almost every leadership lesson I needed to learn she taught me.

SERVANT LEADERSHIP

Books have been written about Servant Leadership and big ticket speeches given but from my earliest memories I saw my Mother live the very tenants of Servant Leadership. Mum built a home of warmth and love where I felt secure enough to risk striking out on my own but knew that I had a soft place to which I could always return. I knew that no matter what, I could always depend on her. She modeled what it meant to be a great mother, wife, daughter, and sister.

 

Teams need to feel connected and team members empowered to take risk but know that you have their back if it doesn’t always go according to plan. Team members also need to know what behaviors are acceptable and what good looks like.

 
HUMILITY

Maybe this was one of the tougher lessons for me to learn. My parents were visiting our home in Kansas when a massive storm blew through. I arrived home to find our back yard flooded and totally upended. My Dad, Hus

 

band and Mother were beavering away trying to fix the damage. I’m not sure exactly what I did when I showed up but my Mum threw her hands in the air and yelled, “Stop. Good news. Management’s here!”

Being the boss doesn’t mean you have to have all the answers or always be the one in control A little gratitude and acknowledge

 

ment of the hard work of others can go a long way. Letting others take the lead at times build their confidence and sets an important example of humble leadership.
ACCOUNTABILITY

I was a really good kid and rarely got into trouble but I knew if I broke the rules or disappointed in some way, it was going to be dealt with. The rules and expectations were clear. In my senior year, my classmates and I were going out for a farewell dinner. My Mum told me she didn’t want me drinking at the event. I went. I didn’t drink and I was not a happy camper. Looking back on it now, it was good advice. Yet if I had had a drink my Mum wouldn’t have known.

 

Accountability cuts two ways. The first way is that when there are rules and expectations, there have to be consequences if there is a miss. But the second most important element to accountability is that people choose to step up and do the right thing and hold themselves accountable even if it might be easier to let things slide.
COMMITMENT

My Mum married the man who was to be my Dad over 63 years ago. I’ve observed the ebb and flow of their marriage. There was more smooth than rough, but as in any marriage, there were some challenges. I never for a moment saw my Mum flinch from that commitment she had made for better or worse. I love watching them together now, as she still laughs at all his old jokes even when she hears them from the umpteenth time.

 

 

Team members value the stability of knowing where you stand and that when the going gets tough they can count on you to have their backs, stick with it and work it through. This doesn’t mean that the tough conversations don’t happen. They do. I’m not naïve enough to think all relationships whether business or personal work out but I know I have to work hard and commit to the best possible outcome.
ALWAYS BE OPEN TO LEARNING

When Facebook came into its own, my Mum took it on! She realized that through Facebook, even though she was some 5,000 miles away, she could casually stay connected with what the boys and I were up to. She had never owned a computer and had nothing fancier than a flip phone. In her mid-70’s she got her first p.c. and some 5 years later a smart phone. Unafraid to ask for help and lean into the technology, she fast became my number one Facebook “stalker.”

 

 

Leaders who have nothing to learn show up totally closed off. When you stop learning you stop growing. No matter how far along you may be in your career, you need to stay open to learning new skills, new ways of doing things, and new technologies. It can open up a whole new world for you.

 
CELEBRATE

Mum’s always been good at celebrating, but I saw it reach epic proportions when she became a grandmother. Watching her with my boys, I saw her celebrate every little victory and accomplishment even if it wasn’t quite perfect. They knew they had no bigger cheerleader than their Nanny. Her celebrating gave them confidence to always strive even against the biggest challenges. Having her cheer and making her proud was a driver in itself.

We often get so caught up in what lies ahead that we forget to celebrate accomplishments. Demonstrating pride in what others achieve provides recognition and incentive to continue to do well.
So to my Mum and all the mothers out there, Happy Mother’s Day. Perhaps without even knowing it, you teach leadership better than anyone else in the world!

Linda Adams is a Leadership Development expert and co-founder of the Trispective Group.  he is the co-author of The Loyalist Team: How Trust, Candor, and Authenticity Create Great Organizations. For more information, or to take a free team snapshot assessment, please visit, www.trispectivegroup.com.

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Mother’s Day Mumbelli infant bed GIVEAWAY!

10 May

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At the recent Atlanta Baby and Child Expo I had the pleasure to meet with so many amazing folks and get to check out some cool products.  One of the most fun groups of people there were the folks from Mumbelli!  Initially I was intrigued by their product, then when they showed me how it worked I was sold.  They are a generous bunch, so they donated one of their display models to my Postpartum Doula and Infant Care business that I recently opened named Beyond Birth Atlanta.

And…they offered to send one directly to one of my readers for FREE!  Isn’t that exciting???  All you have to do is comment below about what feature of the Mumbelli you are most excited about!  Then, on Mother’s Day, May 13th at midnight, I will randomly select the winner and notify by comment on your comment…so check back so we can connect!

A little more about this awesome new product:

Mumbelli combines swaddling warmth with a unique cradling design highlighted by our Adjustable Foot Insert. This is key. Have you ever noticed your baby or someone else’s kicking fitfully? They do it because they’re desperately trying to find that snug, enveloping comfort they knew in the womb. Mumbelli’s Adjustable Foot Insert immediately provides this missing sensation of support. Babies immediately begin to relax. They stop crying. You can literally feel the sense of calm wash over them as those sleepy eyes close. And because babies come in all shapes and sizes, our Foot Insert is fully adjustable for a perfect fit every time… and every child if your family is still growing.

Every Mumbelli also comes with a special Wedge Insert designed to incline your baby’s head ever so slightly for a comfortable change of position anytime. It’s gentle angle also promotes easy swallowing and can help reduce the likelihood of infant reflux.

Mumbelli is super lightweight, comes with it’s own protecting carrying bag so it’s portable, and is great from birth until baby begins rolling over.  Mumbelli has been designed and perfected to give your baby a loving transition into the world. Every Mumbelli is tested and certified to meet the highest quality and materials standards. The plush cover unzips in seconds and can be tossed directly in the wash for ultra-convenient care.

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Good luck!  Can’t wait to see who wins!

Giveaway reminder and Boardroom Grand Opening!

8 Apr

Remember that this Thursday, April 12 at midnight is the deadline to register to win a deluxe men’s haircut package worth $60 at The Boardroom.  Comment HERE to enter!

Also that day, you are invited to the Grand Opening of the Brighten Park location where there can enjoy refreshments and check out the salon.  See details below:

 

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Giveaway! ~ Boardroom Salon for Men

3 Apr

Boardroom Salon for Men opened its second location in the Atlanta-area on March 9th. The new location is located at Brighten Park, a shopping center at the intersection of North Druid Hills and Briarcliff Roads, just off I-85 and near Emory University.

Before I set about to offer you or the man (or little guy) in your life the chance to experience the royal treatment at The Boardroom, I decided to take my big little man in for a treat to see for myself.  Spoiler alert: he LOVED it!

The salon is luxurious and the customer care superb.  Cold beverages (including beer) are offered as part of your service and care and time are taken to greet you and converse about the style you are seeking and what might work best for your hair type.  A custom cut, a spa-like wash and condition, and then a unique and flattering style are all a part of the Boardroom experience.

Check out the photos and decide for yourself if this isn’t the coolest option for a modern man’s haircut out there!

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Thanks to Boardroom manager TK and her staff for a wonderful afternoon with my son.  Be sure you say Amber sent you when you visit.

Comment below before midnight on April 7th and let me know what your vote for my son’s next hair-style should be to enter a giveaway just for my readers. One lucky randomly chosen winner will receive The Benchmark, which includes a haircut plus 15 minutes of relaxing spa services (a value of $60!!!).

Wife Swap is searching for Modern Families in the ATL!

2 Apr

Have you ever wondered if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence?

Do you want to see what you can learn from a family or teach a family that is different than your own?

Do you need to take a break from your family because you feel under appreciated?

Wife Swap is searching for all types of modern families in the greater Atlanta area. Your family does not need to be the “traditional” mother/father nuclear family, they are looking for all types of families.

And GUESS WHAT? There IS COMPENSATION FOR FAMILIES SELECTED FOR THE SHOW and there is a $250 finder’s fee if you refer a family that makes the show! Just make sure the applicants mention your name to the casting directors!

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If you and your loved ones are ready to embark on a journey that will ultimately strengthen your own bond as a family, please apply TODAY at wifeswapcasting.com 

 

 

Black Thumb, Love Plants

15 Feb

I adore being outside.  The fresh air, the sunshine, or even the cool humidity of a misty rain.  Nature is my thing and that’s why living in Atlanta’s fairly temperate climate is such a good fit for my family.  The other thing I love about being outdoors is the opportunity to enjoy flowers, plants, trees, and all things living.

Unfortunately, I do not have a green thumb.  I am aware of the benefits of live plants for mental and physical health.  Truth be told, even if my house had great natural light, I would probably still struggle to keep plants and flowers alive.  But, at my house which is surrounded by dozen of huge hundred year old trees, I have almost zero percent chance of plant survival success.

That’s where artificial plants that appear real and are attractive and fit in with my decor come in.  Until recently, I was convinced that all “fake plants” looked like they were purchased in the clearance aisle of a big-box chain store.  Then, I came upon the products at PermaLeaf® and I was floored by the options on the website, and I couldn’t wait for the piece I chose to be delivered.  I got it yesterday- on Valentine’s Day!- and it was a real treat.  The plant looks even better and more natural in person, in my opinion.  What do you think?

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I love canvas!

9 Feb

If you’ve ever been to my house, you know I am a photo junkie.  I have photos of my kids printed on different materials as the primary wall decor in my home.  I love that there is no glare from glass covering the image and even better that canvas is so lightweight.

Well, as you can imagine, when Photowall contacted me to see if I’d like to check out one of their products, I was all over it.  At first, I tried an image that unfortunately did not have a high enough resolution, so I was initially disappointed.  Next, I tried an image that was a photo of my husband and me.  The resolution was great, but I had a particular wall in mind for the canvas and is would require a pretty large size.  I almost clicked “order” when my husband (both jokingly and seriously) asked, “do you think anyone really wants to look at an almost lifesize image of the two of us on the wall?”.  Thank goodness he caught me because when I realized how ridiculous it would have been, I couldn’t stop giggling.  So, instead of trying to find a photo to have printed, I changed gears all together.

In addition to the traditional sites that allow you to print your own images on canvas, Photowall has some super cool wall murals and canvas options.  Once I dug into those, to be honest, I couldn’t choose.  Did I want a landscape, a piece of art, something contemporary, or an architectural image?

Once I found this artistic skyline image of Atlanta, I was IN LOVE!  I have lived here for nearly 15 years now and I love this city.  Even if I move someday, I will always treasure my time here and the fact that my boys were born in Georgia.

I was completely impressed with the entire ordering process from start to finish.  Simple, efficient, and a fast response time from customer service when I needed to make an adjustment.  Also, the product arrived quickly and in great condition.  I’ll be honest, I hadn’t read the fine print and didn’t realize the frame was a DIY thing until it arrived, which intimidated me at first, until I watched the following video.  Then, I was like, OKAY, LET’S DO THIS!  Less than 5 minutes later the canvas was ready to be hung and I realized that it is super sturdy and it was kind of a fun experience to assemble it myself.

Here are the photos of the print hanging above the couch in my basement family room.  I think it looks great and am super excited to have something honoring this great city decorating my home.

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What do you think???

If you’d like to connect with Photowall, check out the following links:

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New device alerts parents via Bluetooth if backseat of car becomes too hot/cold & reminds parents not to leave baby in car

5 Jan

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Using low energy Bluetooth and advance patent pending technology, eClip is able to detect when you walk more than 15 feet from your car by alerting you through an interactive app on your Smartphone. The eClip also monitors the temperature in the back of your car to keep it safe and comfortable for your baby.

Why the eClip?

Accidentally leaving a child in the car happens too often to loving families each year. Since records were taken in 1998, more than 700 young children have unnecessarily died by being forgotten in cars. Fortunately, this is a tragedy we can help prevent.

How does eClip attach?

Setting up eClip for daily use is extremely easy and only takes a few seconds. Simply attach eClip to a car seat, regular seat belt or diaper bag. You can attach it to even more places with the accessory strap that is included in the box. The on/off switch is designed so a child cannot accidentally turn it off and there are no small parts that pose a choking hazard.

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Click here for the company website: http://elepho.com/eclip

Click here for a video demonstrating eClip: http://buff.ly/2rjIqvL

The Secret to Raising Healthy Kids Starts in the Kitchen

7 Dec

By Joy Stephenson-Laws, JD, Founder

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The incidence of children with obesity in the United States has more than tripled since the 1970s, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Currently about one in five school-aged children (ages 6-19) are obese. In addition, “about one-third of American youth are overweight, a problem closely related to the increase in kids with type 2 diabetes, some as young as 10 years old,” the CDC reports. And the longer children are obese or overweight, the more likely they are to remain so as adults.

We have to change these statistics. And a recent study suggests the place to start is in the kitchen.

study of thousands of Canadian, elementary school-aged children found that kids who are regularly involved in healthy meal preparation at home were more likely to have the skills and confidence to make better food choices outside of the home. On top of that, these children were more likely to enjoy eating a larger variety of fruits and vegetables.

This study involved an extensive survey. The children were asked how often they helped prepare meals at home. Answer options were: “Never,” “Almost never,” “Several times a day” and “On most days.”

Next, the children’s fruit and vegetable preference was looked at. Preferences for three fruits (apples, oranges, blueberries) and nine vegetables (carrots, tomatoes, green beans, broccoli, spinach, zucchini, cabbage, squash, green peas) were evaluated.

Answers included: “Like a lot,” “Like a bit,” “Don’t like” and “Don’t know.” Children were instructed by evaluation assistants to select “Don’t know” if they had never tried the fruit or vegetable.

Finally their ability to make healthy food choices were also tested. The children were asked six questions:

  • Are you confident you can eat healthy food at school?
  • Eat a healthy snack between school and dinner?
  • Eat healthy food or choose a healthy snack when with friends?
  • Eat healthy food when eating dinner with the family?
  • Choose a healthy snack when alone at home?
  • Choose a healthy snack when bored or sad?

Response options ranged from “Very confident to “Not confident at all,” and demographic information was also taken into account including annual household income, urban or rural residency and educational level of parents. About half (51%) of the children surveyed were girls, and the survey pulled from a variety of household incomes and educational backgrounds of the parents.

“Approximately 30% of children reported helping with home meal preparation at least once daily, while 12·4 % reported never helping.” And frequency with home meal participation was associated with an increased preference for fruits and vegetables.

“This association appeared to be more pronounced in vegetable preference compared with fruits, where helping with home meal preparations several times daily led to approximately a 10 % (or 1 point) increase in vegetable preference.”

These new findings are a big deal because vegetables, like broccoli, are often very hard to get kids to eat.

Furthermore, children who ate more meals with their families made healthier diet choices.

It is not enough to simply say to your child, “Eat your broccoli, because I said so.” If your child, however, actually helps prepare the broccoli they may be more motivated to make wiser decisions regarding their health and actually enjoy eating the broccoli.

And these healthy meal prepping principles go beyond the home. “Research on the impact of school garden programs has shown that a hands-on approach of exposing children to a variety of fruits and vegetables is a viable strategy to encourage children to develop increased food preference and subsequently increased intake.”

So what does all this mean for our health?

Well, clearly we need to involve our kids more in the meal preparation process. The findings are clear. More involvement is associated with healthier food choices. And healthier food choices lead to healthier kids.

Here are some useful tips to increase kid participation in the kitchen.

  • Instead of family movie night, do family cooking night. Use cool tools in the kitchen, like a vegetable spiralizer to make “zoodles” or noodles made from zucchini. There are also safer, kid-friendly knives you can buy.
  • Bring it to the bedtime story. Read books with your children about healthy eating and nutrition.
  • Make it educational and interesting. Make it a game. Take your kid to the grocery store and ask him/her to pick the veggie for the night. The more you can involve them, the better.
  • Plant a garden with them. Kids like to get dirty outside, right? And they may find it fascinating to see where these beautiful, colorful healthy foods come from.
  • Tell them why it is important to eat healthy. “Because I said so” is not as meaningful as because this will help prevent you from getting sick, this will help you run better, this will help you maybe when you have a family one day, this will make you feel less tired and this will make that cut or scrape heal faster.
  • Watch what you say. Your kid can hear you when you say, “I’m so sick of eating salad!” Get creative and find alternatives to salad. Maybe make a collard wrap instead. If you are happy with your eating, your child will likely be happy with their eating.

At the end of the day, meal prepping is a great way to build your children’s confidence and give them the tools they need to not become victims of obesity and diabetes.

And yes it worked for me. My mom taught me how to cook at an early age, and I had mandatory cooking classes in high school. As a result, I developed skills that helped me make healthier life choices and lead a healthy life.

When we are proactive about the health of our children, we are being proactive about our future health.

Enjoy your healthy life!

The pH professional health care team includes recognized experts from a variety of health care and related disciplines, including physicians, attorneys, nutritionists, nurses and certified fitness instructors. This team also includes the members of the pH Medical Advisory Board, which constantly monitors all pH programs, products and services. To learn more about the pH Medical Advisory Board, click here.

Joy Stephenson-Laws is the founder of Proactive Health Labs (www.phlabs.org), a national non-profit health information company that provides education and tools needed to achieve optimal health. Her most recent book is Minerals – The Forgotten Nutrient: Your Secret Weapon for Getting and Staying Healthy, available through Amazon, iTunes and bookstores.

Winter Hair Care for Kids- Managing kid’s hair in the cooler temperatures

15 Nov

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It’s time to prepare for the upcoming holidays and the upcoming winter weather. As cooler temperatures enter our neighborhoods, many of us increase the heat in our homes. While this keeps us warm, it ends up drying out the hair and leading to breakage. This happens for both kids and adults, but kids need a little more help from Mom and Dad to prevent hair from drying out. Here are some tips for caring for your child’s winter hair.

1. Start with a light, easily manageable haircut
It is recommended to get a trim every six to eight weeks to prevent breakage. At the start of winter’s peak—end of November, early December—I recommend getting your child’s hair cut so the ends are fresh, and the style is easily manageable. You want to avoid heavy styling in the cold months so having a simple hairstyle is best. My favorite winter hairstyles for girls are short to medium length Bobs and for little boys I recommend a Fade or an easy Crew Cut.

2. Invest in hair care products
Year-round you want to have quality haircare products, but this is especially important during the cooler temperatures. Invest in a quality shampoo and conditioner, detangling spray and a leave-in conditioner.
I recommend Original Sprouts Natural Shampoo, Leave In Conditioner and Miracle Detangler. You can find these products in your salon—ask a hairstylist at your haircutting appointment—or similar products
at the grocery store.

3. Think about your plate
Often times we forget that what we eat affects our hair. The best vitamins and minerals for hair moisture, shine and health are found in fish (salmon, preferably), leafy greens and nuts. Try to add salmon into the weekly rotation and consider adding a few greens to your child’s lunch or dinner. Nuts are easy add-ons in lunches, trail mix or other snacks. These easy swaps will help nourish your body and
your hair!

4. Avoid over styling
I mentioned this above but it’s worth repeating: heavy washing, drying, combing, braiding and excess hair accessories can lead to more breakage. Washing too often or not enough can dry out hair. Aim for every other day or so, but go with what works best for your family. Also remember that after washes
you don’t want your child to go outside with wet hair—it will make them too cold and increase the risk of catching a cold. It can also lead to hair breakage. Try to do washes at night before bedtime for best results.

5. Detangle hair before and after each styling/wash
Detangling hair not only makes washing and styling easier, but it also prevents messy knots, which leads to breakage. If your child’s hair is dry, spray it with water or a hair solution to get it a little wet. If wet, use a conditioning solution or detangling spray. Use a wide-tooth comb to gently comb through the hair, moving from the ends to the roots, until all the knots are out and hair is smooth.

6. Monitor and keep lice at bay
Kids often share hats and coats are frequently hung next to, or on top of, other coats making it easy for lice to spread. In the winter, make sure you are checking your child’s hair every one-two weeks to see if any lice have found their way onto your child’s head. I also recommend using Fairy Tales Rosemary Repel lice prevention line of products to repel lice away. Original Sprout Shampoo and Conditioner also contain Rosemary to repel lice.

Hair care is often forgotten about when temperatures drop, but it is an important part of overall care and appearance, and it is important to teach our children about it while they are young. I hope these tips will help your family combat the winter chill while keeping your hair in great condition.

About the Author
Grace Small is the mother of three young adults. She has lived in Kennesaw for over 20 years. Grace owns and operates the Cookie Cutters Haircuts for Kids salon in Kennesaw with her husband Las. The salon is located at 1615 Ridenour Blvd. in Kennesaw. When she’s not in the salon, Grace enjoys participating in community activities with local schools and day care centers, as well as with the local Business Associations. She also enjoys the outdoors and exploring the beautiful Atlanta parks.

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